Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone. ~ Colossians 4:6 (NLT)
A survey was done quite some time ago. I can’t seem to locate the actual results anywhere on Google, but I’ll summarize it for you here. A bunch of young men were asked about what type of woman they would like to marry. They were given descriptions of three, or so, different women. The first was extremely beautiful. She had the looks of a supermodel. But, she was shallow and only cared about herself and what others could do for her. She was rude and crude. She was hot, and everyone else was made to serve her. The next was very pretty, not quite supermodel status, but still gorgeous. Yet, she had an attitude and complained about everything. Nothing was up to her standards, and basically everyone in the world was stupid compared to her. The next woman was very nice looking, but certainly didn’t have the ideal looks to be a model. She had a little more meat on her bones and was curvy. However, she loved people. She had a great sense of humor and didn’t put people down. Instead, she always seemed to be lifting them up. She was confident in her own skin, but not cocky or arrogant. So, how did the men pick? Overwhelmingly they chose the third woman.
Of course, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that men can look beyond the superficial. Yet, for some it did. I know it shattered my stereotype of what most guys look for in a woman.
Here’s the truth, your attitude dictates how other people see you. It doesn’t matter how good looking you are. It doesn’t matter how rich you are. What matters is how you treat other people. And, of course, God understands this. This is why through the psalmist, He inspired our verse for today, “Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.”
Additionally, we as Christians aren’t just representing ourselves. We are representatives of the Kingdom of God. How attractive does that kingdom look when the people that represent it are constantly griping about things and calling other people names? Not so much. So, today, and every day, be gracious. Seek to lift other people up. Don’t look for the negative, seek the positive. Use words that are attractive.